Sam started self-medicating with street drugs to soothe the demons in his head, said Stuart, 77. Before long, his drug addiction led to hospital admissions, involvement in the criminal justice system and homelessness.
“Sam would have been better off in an institution,” said Stuart. “Mental illness is such a scary thing for all of us and we aren’t doing the right things in trying to help those affected. We’ve left them on the street and we’ve let them become drug addicted.”
Sam was sick from an early age, said Stuart, who describes her son as very, very difficult.
The teachers at Montessori preschool always said: “Sam won’t listen. Sam pushes people.”
St. Michaels University School asked him to leave.
“It was awful,” said Stuart. “We were at the principal’s office every single week to discuss what was happening with Sam. He was bright and capable, in the 98th percentile. But he couldn’t concentrate. He couldn’t sit still. He either had fits of laughter or was in absolute terror. I couldn’t even go the store with him because I didn’t know how he would act.”
Sam managed to complete Grade 12, and worked in his mother’s restaurant, 386 Deli on Blanshard Street. But other jobs didn’t work out so well.
There were altercations and outbursts, episodes of paranoia and delusion. Sam was committed to the Eric Martin Pavilion three times. There was also a trip to the Forensic Psychiatric Hospital in Coquitlam.
“Sam had a good life — he had two parents who loved him and provided for him. But if you have an illness and that illness is untreated, there’s nothing in this world that you can do to change that,” said Stuart.
“He was on crystal meth because it took him away, gave him a sense of well-being. I could no more change the addiction for him than fly to the moon.”
Eventually, Sam became homeless. For four and a half years, he lived on the streets, where Stuart worried he would be hurt.
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