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[Citified.ca]

225-child daycare facility proposed for West Shore's Bear Mountain and South Skirt Mountain communities

https://victoria.cit...in-communities/

[Victoria Watcher]

childcare seems like such a big hassle.  a parent goes to work but has to give $1500 salary back just for childcare.  

 

it's too bad we could not chemically but safely just put them to sleep somehow (maybe in the car at the work parking lot) while the parent works.

Edited by Victoria Watcher, 02 November 2020 - 10:14 AM.

[Nparker]

...it's too bad we could not chemically but safely just put them to sleep somehow (maybe in the car at the work parking lot) while the parent works.

Or just don't have children in the first place.

[jasmineshinga]

Avoid the whole parent situation, then you don't have to pay for a child-minder or give up your life.

[On the Level]

Avoid the whole parent situation, then you don't have to pay for a child-minder or give up your life.

 

Until you're old and sitting alone at Christmas...

[Lorenzo]

They come in handy when dementia sets in.

[LJ]

childcare seems like such a big hassle.  a parent goes to work but has to give $1500 salary back just for childcare.  

 

it's too bad we could not chemically but safely just put them to sleep somehow (maybe in the car at the work parking lot) while the parent works.

At $10 a day that's only like $300.

 

I pay $40 a day for someone to look after my dog when I am away.

[Mike K.]

That’s not a real thing. It was a botched election promise from 2017.

[LJ]

It was promised again in 2020.

Oh, and the feds have promised it as well.

[Mike K.]

Oh I can imagine. Right now it’s about $900/month, at the low end. 20 days of the month, or $45/day. Most people I know pay well above that.

[On the Level]

I'd have to look back but I believe mine was ~$1,200 but that was a while back now.  It gets less as they get older especially once they start going to school.

[jasmineshinga]

Until you're old and sitting alone at Christmas...

Hah! Assumining I'll either live to be old, or do Christmas.

 

Having children guarantees nothing but that someone out there will resent you for very specific reasons.

[jasmineshinga]

They come in handy when dementia sets in.

I'd think one would rather have the funds for a trained professional in that scenario, rather than putting one's family through the emotional trauma of trying to remember one's face every morning.

[Barrrister]

Jasnibe: I settled for a young wife instead of kids. Seems like the better deal. 

[On the Level]

Having children guarantees nothing but that someone out there will resent you for very specific reasons.

 

I know everyone is different and there certainly isn't a right or wrong answer when it comes to having kids.  My view is skewed since (so far) I have had nothing but a wonderful experience and I can't imagine my kids resenting me for something, but I guess time will tell.  

 

Everyone picks their own path and as long as they are happy with their decision, then that's all that matters.

[AllseeingEye]

I know everyone is different and there certainly isn't a right or wrong answer when it comes to having kids.  My view is skewed since (so far) I have had nothing but a wonderful experience and I can't imagine my kids resenting me for something, but I guess time will tell.  

 

Everyone picks their own path and as long as they are happy with their decision, then that's all that matters.

 

 

Totally concur; I can't imagine not having our daughter - all the good the bad and frankly the PITA experiences that came with it - but that's me.

 

I'm very much looking forward to being "gramps" one day and being surrounded by extended family. Growing up locally for the most part we had six members of the immediate family so holidays etc were always happy affairs; my mom's extended family in Nova Scotia now numbers some 25+ people so one can picture Thanksgivings and Christmas' past. Riotous at times, but full of love and happy memories.

 

Also our own mother is in Year 14 of dementia, while we're peripherally on that subject, and I cannot equally imagine her final years wasting away in a long term care home, alone, without her children (my sister and me) visiting her regularly. I see other patients on her ward apparently with no living family - or at least no one who can be bothered to visit - and a sadder vision you cannot imagine.

 

That said my sister and brother in law decided even while they were still dating back in the 80's that they did not want kids. Twenty eight years later after their marriage they are still going strong. To each their own.
 

[Danma]

Having children guarantees nothing but that someone out there will resent you for very specific reasons.

Hmmm I guess we have a pretty good idea about how your childhood went...   
 

 

Everyone picks their own path and as long as they are happy with their decision, then that's all that matters.

1000% yes. Having kids, not having kids, it's your own choice, never shame others for their choices.

[Nparker]

I think this thread had truly earned this

[On the Level]

^ MY GOD MAN.....WON'T YOU THINK OF THE CHILDREN?  (kidding)

[Danma]

^ MY GOD MAN.....WON'T YOU THINK OF THE CHILDREN?  (kidding)

 

What do you think we're doing?!! All we are doing IS thinking about children!

Anyways, yeah, back on topic: Interesting to see this up Bear Mountain Parkway. I assumed it would be 100% residential on the south slope but I guess not!