Not sure why there is such a sudden need to dismantle whatever system you think needs dismantling. Can you give an example of 'equity through gender' that you arent seeing? We have female firefighters, front line military, police, doctors, astronauts, prime ministers and premiers, ceo's etc....with the exception of merit or a particular skill, there are very few doors closed if any, I dont see what this 'thing' that needs dismantling. How about womens only fitness clubs?
Apart from physical attributes either through strength and/or plumbing all doors are open. Men cant give birth, and for that I'm most thankful!!!
My wife has multiple degrees and is a successful professional, my daughter is finishing her degree and is currently flying to the UK to interview for a very good university for her Masters. Nobody is getting in their way.....
Let me throw some numbers at you:
Canadian Politics
(via CBC)
As of the 2015 election, women held 26% of seats in the House of Commons.
U.S. Politics
(via CAWP)
As of 2018, women make up:
19.8 % of Congress
22 % of the Senate
19.3 % of the House
12 % of state governors
21 % of city mayors (pop. over 30,000)
(And to date, women make up 0% of U.S. presidents)
Hollywood:
(via San Diego State University)
For the top 250 films of 2017, women comprised:
11% of directors
25% of producers
11% of writers
4 % of cinematographers
88% of these top 250 films had no women directors, and 83% had no women writers.
Business
(via Center for American Progress)
Within the S&P 500, women account for
44% of the total labour force
36% of first- or middle-level managers
25% of executive or senior level managers and officials
20% of board seats
6% of CEOs
Within U.S. high-tech companies in 2014, women comprise only 20% of executives, senior officers, and management. 43% of the top earning companies in Silicon valley had no women executives.
Sexual violence and assualt
(via Status of Women in Canada)
According to police-reported data, women made up 90% of the victims of sexual assault in 2012.
Men are the perpetrators of 87% of cases of sexual violence against men or women, and 99% of cases of sexual violence against women.
Poverty
(via the National Women's Law Centre)
Women working full-time, year-round earn just 80 cents for every dollar made by their male counterparts.
Women make up 63% of the elderly poor.
Women are 1.38 times more likely to live in poverty than men.
And that is just the tip of the iceberg. I'm glad that your wife and daughter have had great success, but your anecdotal evidence does not contradict statistics.